The big 'N' 'O'

Define 'NO': No is an English word indicating rejection, disagreement, refusal or making a negative response or exclamation..hmm well how to say NO to people is an art I still haven't mastered. When he asks you "Would you come out with me?" how do you say no without hurting his feelings. I mean it seems impossible ,especially when the person in front of you fails to read the signs and you know for sure he is definitely not mature enough to understand the complexity of a girls mind ..coz mostly the reason she would say "Yes" is not coz she likes you, or is playing hard to get but only coz "It is easy". Its easy to say yes coz it still maintains relations, saves you the trouble of not feeling guilty for making someone feel bad, and may be you'd just might have a good time .. so where do we draw the line? When do you know if you are just being nice or your being taken for granted ?? If your looking for an answer here ...stop reading right now coz I swear I dont have one. But the truth about my life at this point of time is "dependability and obligation". Fighting with these two words ..I have had sleepless nights and my morale has gone to level subzero. The way they are intertwined is very interesting, If you depend on him, you are obligated to him. So where is the room to say NO. When do you claim that you are not using the person, your just depending on them and if the person expects more from you then he is just using you back. So who is the bad person here ? If you depend ,it makes your life easier but if your obligated ,it makes your life hell. How do you choose? In case you do , how will you justify it? You know what I did .. I chose myself. Life is too short to find out the answers to things that will only harm you, so go ahead, say NO and face the consequences coz trust me, you might be hated by few, but trying to keep everyone happy is just not worth it!

Signed,
Me, Myself & I