Sorry... its got a ring to it ... Sorry.. so how magical is this word ? Magical enough to mend a broken heart .. magical enough to recover failed relationships ... magical enough to make a relation work ...and in my case I was hoping it was magical enough to save my friendship. Turns out its not good enough. When things go wrong and you feel the sense of regret, something within you tells you that you were wrong, you were totally outta line and its time you apologize. However big our ego is, we know deep within that we were a part of the swearing and name calling conversation and we might as well accept we were wrong rather than things getting outta hand. These topics are really sensitive sometimes .. they need to be handled with utmost care, intelligence and timing. If you plan to take the high road when the person has put their foot down ... is it right ? Is it right to compromise when your really hoping its gonna be appreciated. It wasn't. It wasn't appreciated at all ... it was actually being laughed at in public which made things worse. The very fact that you were hoping it be appreciated .. do you really think you were sorry enough. I still stand to ask this ... What do you do when he/she doesn't accept his/her mistake? Would you call it 'being naive' or 'being an egoist' or probably think the situation wasn't awful enough for them, to make them realize that its wrong. You know .. saying sorry is one thing. ... meaning it is another and not accepting it, now that's just uncool, unacceptable and certainly not welcome.
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A good apology should never have a rider attached to it. No fine print.. no "ifs" and "buts" and expectations of reciprocity or acceptance.
"When things go wrong and you feel the sense of regret, something within you tells you that you were wrong, you were totally outta line and its time you apologize." Thats it. Thats all an apology is. A sincere expression of regret at a mistake on your part.
The rest of it comes from your ego.
Is it right to compromise when your really hoping its gonna be appreciated. No it isnt. The fact that you were expecting something in return, shows that your apology was not as sincere as the other person would have liked it to be. Thats probably why
It wasn't. It wasn't appreciated at all
If you are a firm believer in God , fate, destiny , love and evil, then you would apologize with absolute complete sincerity for your part in the fight/ misunderstanding, and have a little faith in your God/fate/destiny/ own ability to pick friends, that the other person would come around to apologizing for his/her misbehavior too. May take months, but your friendship will be stronger and much more appreciated in the long run.
Just a summary of my thoughts on this topic.
"Is it right to compromise when your really hoping its gonna be appreciated." .. when I thought of this ... I still convinced myself that may I deserved more .. but then again I was wrong.. things are cool .. I guess things like these either get us closer or ruin everything .. It got us closer! :)
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